Adrian Marsh
Inappropriate Behaviors…
- Calling your spouse inappropriate names. (Especially in front of the kids and others)
- Making assumptions: (Get the full story before you reacting)
- Assuming motives and meanings without facts is reckless and unfair to your spouse!
- Mind reading: (Don’t try to read your mate’s mind, and don’t expect them to be able to read yours)
- Laying on guilt: In a word,” manipulation!” Bringing up the past and other mistakes your spouse may have made over time is emotional blackmail.
- If you have forgiven them, stop bringing it up.
- Understand that you bring it up because you never forgave them.
- Ask – What if God kept bringing up your past every time you sin?
- Attacking your spouse’s family:
- Like it or not, you took on more than your spouse when you got married.
- Your mate’s family is just as important to them as yours is to you.
- If family is not essential to you, you might want to do some deep soul-searching and prayer.
- Talking in absolutes and using the word “you” inappropriately:
- Such as “you always“, “you never“
- Try to build up your mate with the word “you”
- I love you
- I miss you
- You are a blessing
- Rejecting or discrediting your spouse (Especially in front of friends, church family, and the kids)